Thoughts and emotions are part of our lived experience. Repeated experiences result in beliefs. These may serve us well. At times however, there are beliefs that do not serve us well. These may be the likes of: I’m useless… I’m a failure…. I’m unlovable … people are untrustworthy … I’m wrong … I’m bad … I’m unworthy …. I’m not good enough … I’m worthless … We may remain “hooked” by these thoughts, “hijacked by them”, living in the past or in the future. A deep sense of shame may be evoked about who we are, and we may disconnect from our true selves. We may then try to protect ourselves in different ways, like trying to please everybody, withdrawing from others and the world, or defending ourselves and argue our way forward in the world.
Becoming aware of these thoughts and emotions is the first step in finding our authenticity and inner strength. By being aware and bringing compassion to ourselves, we allow ourselves to reframe these thoughts into the present moment in a way that allows us to move forward meaningfully and in a valued way in our lives.
“When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending” Brene Brown